Growing Old With Someone

There are going to be several books on how-to, DIY on relationships, tons of literature written from the beginning of time about we are from Venus and others are from Mars. In actuality, it doesn't matter if you traveled all the way from Neptune or some microscopic little tiny meteor, relationships that you impose to last a lifetime takes forever work. As in, for always-never ending, never going to end-til-your-last-breathe type of work.

Sometimes, building a life with someone kinda happens to us without even knowing or planning. The planning part comes after the fact...and by after the fact, I mean 'the honeymoon stage'--after the 'awww that's so sweet, you brought me flowers' stage--you are left with the reality, 

'shit, you're my person--we gotta work through this'--it's you and me against the frikkin' world. 

So, let's deal. 

I think it would be an understatement of the decade, and maybe several decades of people who have been together for so long, that it was only all beds of roses. 'Coz it wasn't without thorns I tell yah! It would be an understatement to describe that heart aches actually felt like your heart was literally breaking when both of you started throwing harsh words at each other, that--and actual things!

Point of this actually goes out to those couples who've endured the fight and came back not only from the moon, but from actual war. Peace comes from the fact that it wasn't always harmonious, and that each one understood what it meant without the other and realized would not survive alive. This is like war, but with romance. 

Leave no wife behind.

I write this maybe too early in my life, since I barely am 40. But I've been with my life partner since I was 21, and it is not joke trying to figure out adulthood, motherhood, and wife-hood altogether where they can't even allow us to marry each other (at that time). So enduring all the adversaries and differences, which I'm sure most married couples feel by year 15 will feel proud too, most especially after all the shenanigans they went through, they come out of it alive.

Remember, it's war without the guns and a whole lotta sexier!

Again, leave no wife behind.